Be aware, when you change, evolve or try something new you will make people very uncomfortable for 2 reasons.
First, they will have to adjust how they are with you. Most people are fearful and lazy so they will resent you for this.
Secondly, by you changing, especially for what you believe is ‘the better’, you force others to take a look at themselves and the things they would like to change… but change is tough, so they will resent you for making it obvious that they are responsible for their circumstances.
Ignore them, and keep growing stronger! In time they will either adjust to the new you, choose to grow stronger themselves, or simply disappear."
“Do not confuse “duty” with what other people expect of you; they are utterly different. Duty is a debt you owe to yourself to fulfill obligations you have assumed voluntarily. Paying that debt can entail anything from years of patient work to instant willingness to die. Difficult it may be, but the reward is self-respect.
But there is no reward at all for doing what other people expect of you, and to do so is not merely difficult, but impossible. It is easier to deal with a footpad than it is with the leech who wants “just a few minutes of your time, please—this won’t take long.” Time is your total capital, and the minutes of your life are painfully few. If you allow yourself to fall into the vice of agreeing to such requests, they quickly snowball to the point where these parasites will use up 100 percent of your time—and squawk for more!
So learn to say No—and to be rude about it when necessary. Otherwise you will not have time to carry out your duty, or to do your own work, and certainly no time for love and happiness. The termites will nibble away your life and leave none of it for you.
(This rule does not mean that you must not do a favor for a friend, or even a stranger. But let the choice be yours. Don’t do it because it is “expected” of you.)”
Robert A. Heinlein, Time Enough For Love
Holding a grudge and harboring anger and resentment is poison to the soul.
Get even with people, but not those who have hurt us - forget them.
Instead get even with those who have helped…
Steve Maraboli ~ Life, Truth and Being Free