Be aware, when you change, evolve or try something new you will make people very uncomfortable for 2 reasons.
First, they will have to adjust how they are with you. Most people are fearful and lazy so they will resent you for this.
Secondly, by you changing, especially for what you believe is ‘the better’, you force others to take a look at themselves and the things they would like to change… but change is tough, so they will resent you for making it obvious that they are responsible for their circumstances.
Ignore them, and keep growing stronger! In time they will either adjust to the new you, choose to grow stronger themselves, or simply disappear."
“Do not confuse “duty” with what other people expect of you; they are utterly different. Duty is a debt you owe to yourself to fulfill obligations you have assumed voluntarily. Paying that debt can entail anything from years of patient work to instant willingness to die. Difficult it may be, but the reward is self-respect.
But there is no reward at all for doing what other people expect of you, and to do so is not merely difficult, but impossible. It is easier to deal with a footpad than it is with the leech who wants “just a few minutes of your time, please—this won’t take long.” Time is your total capital, and the minutes of your life are painfully few. If you allow yourself to fall into the vice of agreeing to such requests, they quickly snowball to the point where these parasites will use up 100 percent of your time—and squawk for more!
So learn to say No—and to be rude about it when necessary. Otherwise you will not have time to carry out your duty, or to do your own work, and certainly no time for love and happiness. The termites will nibble away your life and leave none of it for you.
(This rule does not mean that you must not do a favor for a friend, or even a stranger. But let the choice be yours. Don’t do it because it is “expected” of you.)”
Robert A. Heinlein, Time Enough For Love
ask for what you want
insist upon what you need
believe in what you dream
It’s the oldest story in the world…
One day you’re seventeen and planning for someday, and then quietly, without you ever really noticing, someday is today, and that someday is yesterday and
THIS IS YOUR LIFE."
Even if you think it’s not going to work out, what if it does?
Think about it again: the longer you put off living your life, the more ‘what ifs’ you’ll be accumulating along the way.
And now think about this: when you look back at your life in a year, will you rather be the owner of a brand…
Will Grayson, Will Grayson
When my real life feels as perfectly woven as my archive …
"Don’t do what you know on a gut level to be the wrong thing to do. Don’t stay when you know you should go or go when you know you should stay. Don’t fight when you should hold steady or hold steady when you should fight. Don’t focus on the short-term fun instead of the long-term fall out. Don’t surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn’t true anymore. Don’t seek joy at all costs. I know it’s hard to know what to do when you have a conflicting set of emotions and desires, but it’s not as hard as we pretend it is. Saying it’s hard is ultimately a justification to do whatever seems like the easiest thing to do—have the affair, stay at that horrible job, end a friendship over a slight, keep loving someone who treats you terribly.
I don’t think there’s a single dumbass thing I’ve done in my adult life that I didn’t know was a dumbass thing to do while I was doing it. Even when I justified it to myself—as I did every damn time—the truest part of me knew I was doing the wrong thing. Always. As the years pass, I’m learning how to better trust my gut and not do the wrong thing, but every so often I get a harsh reminder that I’ve still got work to do.”
Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things